One man tells all about his experience with casual Cardiff sex contacts, and how it changed the way he looked at dating and sex.
Not everyone has time, or desire, to nurture an emotional relationship, but that doesn’t stop us from seeking physical intimacy
John (whose name has been changed at his request) told us that he had become tired of the pub dating scene in Cardiff.
Honestly, I just didn’t have to time for it. I lead a very busy life. My work schedule consumes most of my time, and anything left over gets spent on my family or the gym. I’m a single father and I want to be a good role model, but I like having sex. I’m human. It’s a very human thing to want to have physical relationships. Where I’m at in my career and in my life, I just don’t have time for emotional entanglements, honestly- Cardiff sex contacts just fits my life better. I didn’t want to buy an escort or pay for professional sex, I just wanted to be able to meet other people that were in the same position as I am. It got really frustrating, going to the pub, having to find women who seemed to be interested in being picked up, then have to explain to them that I wasn’t interested in a relationship… the fail rate was way too high. If I did happen to meet women who were fine with it, they were usually pretty drunk, or insulted in the morning when I didn’t have time to cook them breakfast.
Did you find it difficult, emotionally, to be in that position?
It might sound stupid to some people, but yea, it was really hard for me. I didn’t want anyone to feel like they were being used. I was always really upfront and honest about what I was looking for and that usually left me alone, or getting yelled at later. I’m not a bad guy, I’m not trying to con anyone, I just want to hook up with other adults who also just want to have casual sex.
What lead you to pursue hook-ups outside of the pub scene?
My buddy dragged me down to a traffic light party one night and it all just clicked. It was so much easier to know ahead of time that there were women who were just interested in casual sex. And not only know that they existed, but have them come out and tell you honestly that that’s what they were looking for. Traffic light parties aren’t every night in Cardiff, so I started looking online to find sex contacts. I’ve used quite a few different websites and apps for Cardiff sex contacts, some of them are just dating websites where no one has a go at you for being honest. It’s really nice being able to not feel like a creep, or a scumbag. I have a kid and I don’t ever want to be seen as some sort of predator. I want my son to know how to respect women, and I can’t teach him that if i feel like I’m taking advantage of them. I don’t want to be a hypocrite.
Do you feel like looking for casual sex contacts in Cardiff has worked for you?
Absolutely. Once I got past worrying about what other people might think, it’s worked out really great. I think for me, what really changed my perspective on it was the difference I felt when I was in a pub or on an online dating website trying to act like I didn’t just want sex, when I really did, as opposed to how I felt when I was on a casual Cardiff sex contacts site. It felt more honest to me. It also made it easier knowing that everyone else in that community felt the same way I did. It was a lot more comfortable to know that I was talking with people who were looking for the same type of connections that I was. The process is still the same, it’s not like I just go on and hook up with the first person I talk to. I get to know them a little bit, and they get to know me a little bit. It’s not anonymous for me. Not everyone on those sites is a good fit for me, and I’m sure I’m not a good fit for everyone, so it does take a bit of elimination and conversation, but the whole process is a lot more honest and streamlined. No one is putting on a show. Everyone is there for sex. We know that. It helps the conversations get to the point a lot faster and there’s not as much disappointment involved.
Is this something you’d recommend to other people in your situation?
Definitely [laughs] I actually have already gotten a few of my mates on it. Finding casual sex in Cardiff has changed my life. I mean, I grew up here, and even though it’s a large city, it can end up feeling really small if you’re looking for a casual sex contact. I don’t want to have to deal with people that know me personally, or my ex-wife. I don’t want to engage with co-workers or my business contacts in that way. Sometimes it can be really hard to find sex contacts in Cardiff that are outside of your normal social circles. That’s what makes the websites so nice. [looks directly at us, like we’re a news camera] Hi, my name is John, and I absolutely recommend searching for Cardiff sex contacts if you’re busy and just want some physical attention!
Thanks John, we’ll definitely remember that!